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 “God Centered Parenting”
 Reverend Bernadette Voorhees
June 15. 2008
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God centered parenting

Meditation

It's our time to pray.  The most powerful thing we can do is pray because prayer is our consciousness link to God.  Prayer calms our fears & doubts as we hold only thoughts about the love of God.   God is at work in your life and in the life of your loved ones & nothing is beyond the power of God to heal and bless.   

Myrtle Fillmore, Co-founder of Unity, said we must teach our children about God & teach them to pray, she asked parents to teach their children the Prayer of Faith.   Bring a special child into your mind now, as we pray it together: God is my help in every need.  God does my every hunger feed.  God walks beside me, guides my way through every moment of the day.  I now am wise.  I now am true, patient, kind and loving too.  All things I am can do and be through Christ the truth that is in me.  God is my health; I can’t be sick.  God is my strength--unfailing, quick.  God is my all; I know no fear since God and love and truth are here. 

Now I invite you to close your eyes & take those words into the silence.  Nothing can shake your faith as you rest in the silence & know that God’s love is with you & those you care about. . . 

Life is eternal & as God is with you, God is with the child you are praying for & throughout all life’s expressions.  God’s love is now working in & through you, to bring forth new strength--not just a strength of physical power, but a strength of the silence.  There is a wholeness in you & in every relationship that you have because the manifestation of pure God love is surrounding you all. Let us pray together the prayer for protection:  The light of God surrounds us.  The love of God enfolds us the power of God protects us, the presence of God watches over us.  Wherever we are god is, and all is well. 

In the nature of love we pray & believe....Amen.  

God Centered Parenting
In the summer of 1991, the U.S. Census Bureau reported that traditional families only make up 50.8% of all the children being raised in America.   According to this study, ‘A traditional family consists of 2 married adults living with only biological children.”  A very narrow definition.  The ‘Walton’s miss out because grandma & grandpa are living under the same roof & the Brady Bunch misses out because Mike & Carol Brady created a blended family after their spouses died.  & Steve Douglas’ of “My 3 Sons’--fails to measure up, because he was a widowed, single dad. 

A book called “Raising Kids in a Changing World” lists 5 ingredients for a happy family.

1.  Spiritual wellness.

2.  Commitment to each other’s welfare & happiness. - I'm concerned about my daughter & my son & they're concerned about me & we are all responsible to fulfill our jobs & roles. 

3.  An appreciation of each other’s specialness; truly enjoying the other person’s company.

4.  Spending quality time together. This says ‘our family unit is important.”

5.  The ability to cope with stress & crisis because you're a team.  We will get through this.  No matter what, we’ll always be all right because we’re together & nothing can beat us.

A teenage girl was driving home from her after school job.  She snagged her fender on the bumper of another car.  She was in tears as she explained that it was a new car, only a few days out of the showroom.  How was she ever going to explain the damage to her dad?  The driver of the other car was sympathetic, but explained that they must note each other's license numbers & registration numbers.  As the young woman reached into the large, brown envelop to retrieve the documents, a piece of paper fell out.  In a heavy masculine scrawl were these words:  “In case of accident, remember honey, it's you I love and not the car." 

I ask you, which was more important as this little girl grew up; The memory of getting the car or the note from her Father?   More than the gifts we give them, children remember the love. But he greatest gift of love we can give our children is God centered parenting.

As parents of the next generation, it is our job to help our children to express the greatness that's inherent in them, to live life without fear, to keep their childlike wonder & total trust, their unquestioning faith & their capacity for love.  We can do this by God centered or spiritual parenting.

Q What is Spiritual parenting? 
A. Spiritual parenting occurs when we place ourselves in right relationship with our child by acknowledging ourselves 1st as spiritual beings.  From that awareness we can then acknowledge our children as the spiritual beings they truly are.

Q.  What does it mean to be a spiritual being?
A.  Everyone is a spiritual being with a spiritual nature, whether they're conscious of it or not.  Some develop this inherent nature more than others.  Jesus Christ, for example demonstrated the potential for developing this nature.  It's each individual's choice to develop or not develop his/her spiritual nature.  Each person is his/her own spiritual authority.  This means each has their own direct relationship with God. 

Q. What is spirit? 
A.  Spirit is the principle of life; the breath of God in all creation. Spirit is a name for the presence & action of God.

Q. What is spirituality? 
A.  Spirituality is the consciousness that relates us directly to God.  It's the awareness of our divine nature and our oneness, our Unity with that Creator.

Q. How is parenting a spiritual practice? 
A. Once we have accepted the belief that we are made in the image & likeness of God, we can consciously choose to develop our spiritual nature, by consciously acknowledging the Divine Spirit (God) present in ourselves & our children. Spiritual parenting differs from other parenting practices because you acknowledge your child's spiritual nature your child feels recognized, honored, loved, & respected --not just as an ego, but as his or her own spiritual authority. When children are encouraged & respected as having their own direct relationship with God, there is an incredible expression of self-confidence & feeling of empowerment.  Being recognized in this way diminishes the need for a child to get attention in other, less positive ways. 

Q.  How do I become more spiritual in my parenting?   
A.  Just as we dedicate ourselves to our children's physical well-being & watch over their mental/emotional development, we must also nurture their spiritual well being by devoting time & giving spirituality a greater priority.  Then as your spiritual consciousness grows, you reflect back to your child his or her own growing spirituality.  We can also help them by praying & teaching them to pray. 

Q.  What is prayer?
A. Prayer is talking with God, your own higher self, the highest or deepest good within you.  Prayer is direct contact with God through your own thoughts & feelings.  God's is ever present in you.   The link is always there, to use or not use anytime we choose. Sharing prayer with children helps them to experience peace & happiness with themselves & with others.  It helps them to know how to solve their own problems & to not create as many problems to begin with.  & Also helps them learn to comfort themselves when you are not there. 

Q.  How do I pray with my children?

1.  Start praying yourself.  Establish a private prayer practice.  If it's hard for you to pray, or you're out of practice, begin your prayers by asking for guidance in healing your relationship with God.  Then spend time in silence, listening until the guidance comes.  Being comfortable with your self will make it easier to pray with others. 

2.  Once we believe the experience of prayer is irreplaceable in our children's lives, we only have to focus ourselves & set aside a specific time for it.  Prayer can take place anytime, anywhere, but if you're just beginning to build this habit, it's best to make a specific daily commitment.  Choose a time that works in your present schedule & stick with it.

3.  Use Prayers & Verses From Scripture a favorite prayer from your own childhood or a short prayer that is easy to memorize.  Memorizing prayers, poems & scripture verses & saying them together as a morning or evening ritual helps calm & focus energy to help find that inner link with God & gives children comforting tools they carry with them wherever they go. 

4.  Singing songs together is also a good form of prayer. 

5.  Look for the Good:  Develop an attitude of gratitude.   An easy prayer is to say "Thank you Go for all the good things that happened today,"  & name them one by one.   Think on all the blessings you have received &  "Problems" shrink and can be seen in truer perspective. 

6.  Give thanks for anything & everything at any time or place.  In developing this "attitude of gratitude" we are establishing in ourselves the deep conviction that we are profoundly loved & cared for & that planet earth is a miraculous place to live.  This is one of the most powerful ways to reinforce an open channel to the Divine.
 

7.  Teach your child to say a SIMPLE Statement of Truth: about God and us:  For example:  "God loves me.”  “I know you hear me always,” or "God, you fill my heart with love," or God's will for me is only good." or "the Christ in me loves the Christ in you."  “I love you I bless you & I behold the Christ in you.” 
 
8.  Help your child find Go in The natural world & learn to notice the Divine Essence in all of life, we are moved to prayerful thanks, or spiritual affirmations of God's omnipresence.    
 

9.  Pray for divine ideas & feelings, not things:  So often we pray for things --a new house, car, toy presents for a birthday or Christmas, so we teach our children to pray for things.  Children pick this right up from the source--their parents.  Praying for things isn’t BAD; it just 'limits' how we perceive the answer to our prayers.  When a child prays for toys at Christmas, you can help that child understand that s/he is really praying for the feeling of being wonderfully satisfied with love & abundance.  When we pray for a new house, we are really praying for comfortable, safe shelter & having our needs provided for.  Helping children to gently shift their focus from specific 'things' to the ideas & feelings behind the things opens their minds to the many different ways their prayers might be answered. 
 

10.  Prayer is the most powerful tool for problem solving.  Helping your child to learn to lift up a problem & to turn it over to God is 1 of the greatest gifts you can give them.   It's important to pray with your children about their concerns & needs.  Be respectful & non-judgmental--their problems are very real to them & very important.  

 

As parents & as spiritual beings raising spiritual beings, we can help our children know: 


1.  prayer is always answered
 
2.  A problem is an opportunity to learn and grow.
 
3.  We don't encounter problems in life without also having the solutions to them.
 
4.  As parents, we will love and support them unconditionally in all their efforts to resolve the problem.
 
5.  God is good & only good.  Everything in the universe is always iworking for good & everything always works out for the highest & best of all concerned.
 
6.  We can’t always see or know just exactly what that good will be, God will surprise us!  I can’t wait to see what god is trying to do here!
 
7.  We can trust God & God in each other with everything. 
 

The most powerful impact adults have on children is as role models.  If we wish our children to value the inner spiritual life, then we must give intentional regard to offering these experiences to children & to letting them see that we value them. 
 

When you look into the face of your child think of that child as a child of God.  Feel a sense of wonder when you think of all that they brought with them into life. 

When you think about what lies ahead of them, be glad that they are a part of God & that God will be with them each and every day.
 

Let us pray:

Dear God, there are many fathers here this morning. Empower them with patience, love, wisdom & the courageous actions of their indwelling perfect Christ.

Help them to give love to their children that is beyond human love, a love that will be remembered & relived tomorrow, when they become father’s & mother’s of their own children.   Amen.

 

FATHER’S DAY HUMOR

A Woman's Guide to Men's Gifts to help you with YourFather's Day Shopping

Rule #1:  When in doubt, buy him a cordless drill. It doesn’t matter if he already has one. I have a friend who owns 17 and he has yet to complain. As a man, you can never have too many cordless drills.  No one knows why.

Rule #2:  If you can’t afford a cordless drill, buy him anything with the word ratchet or socket in it. Men love saying those two words. "Hey George, can I borrow your ratchet?" "OK." "By-the-way, are you through with my 3/8-inch socket yet?" Again, no one knows why.

Rule #3: If you are really broke, buy him anything for his car: A 99-cent ice scraper,  small bottle of deicer or something to hang from his rear view mirror. Men love gifts for their cars.

Rule #4: Do not buy men socks,  ties &  bathrobes.

Rule #5: You can buy men new remote controls to replace the ones they have worn out. If you have a lot of money, buy your man a big-screen TV with the little picture in the corner.

Rule #6: Don’t buy any man industrial-sized canisters of after shave or deodorant. I'm told men do not stink; they are earthy.

Rule #7: Buy men label makers. Almost as good as cordless drills & Within a couple of weeks there’ll be labels absolutely everywhere: Socks. Shorts. Cups. Saucers. You get the idea.

Rule #8: Never buy a man anything that says "some assembly required" on the box. It will ruin his Special Day and he will always have parts left over.

Rule #9: Good places to shop for men include Northwest Iron Works, Lowe’s, Home Depot, John Deere, The RV Center,  NAPA auto stores, Harley Davidson Shop. Parts of ANY kind work, it doesn't matter if he doesn't know what it is. "From NAPA Auto, eh? Must be something I need. Hey!  Isn't this a starter for a '68 Ford Fairlane? Wow! Thanks!"

Rule #10:  Men enjoy danger. That's why they never cook, but they will barbecue. Get him a monster barbecue with a 100-pound propane tank & then tell him the gas line leaks. "Oh the thrill! The challenge! Who wants a hamburger?"
 
Rule #11: Men love chain saws. Never, ever, buy a man you love a chain saw. If you don't know why, please refer to Rule #7 and what happens when he gets a label maker.

Rule #12: It's hard to beat a really good wheel barrow or an aluminum extension ladder. Never buy a real man a step ladder. It must be an extension ladder or the fold-up kind on the infomercials.

Rule #13: Rope. Men love rope. It takes us back to their cowboy origins, or at least The Boy Scouts. Nothing says love like a hundred feet of 3/8" manila rope.No one knows why.

Truer words were never spoken

Because I'm a man, when I lock my keys in the car, I will fiddle with a coat hanger long after hypothermia has set in. Calling AAA is not an option. I will win, even if it may mean destroying the door or window in the process.

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Because I'm a man, when the car isn't running very well, I will pop the hood and stare at the engine as if I know what I'm looking at. If another man shows up, one of us will say to the other, "I used to be able to fix these things, but now with all these computers and everything, I wouldn't even know where to start." We will then drink a couple of cups of coffee and curse at the machine as a form of holy communion.

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Because I'm a man, when I catch a cold, I need someone to bring me soup and take care of me while I lie in bed and moan. You're a woman. You never get as sick as I do, so for you, this should be no problem.

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Because I'm a man, I can be relied upon to purchase BASIC groceries at the store, like milk or bread. I cannot be expected to find exotic items like "paprika", pepper crackers or "tofu." For all I know, these are the same thing.

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Because I'm a man, when one of our appliances stops working, I will insist on taking it apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as much once the repair person gets here and has to put it †back together.

Because I'm a man, I must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch TV. If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking for it.

HAPPY FATHERíS DAY!

 

 



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