UNITY OF VANCOUVER
“God Centered Parenting”
Reverend Bernadette Voorhees
June 15. 2008
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God centered parenting
It's our time to pray. The most powerful thing we can do is pray because prayer is our consciousness link to God. Prayer calms our fears & doubts as we hold only thoughts about the love of God. God is at work in your life and in the life of your loved ones & nothing is beyond the power of God to heal and bless.
Myrtle Fillmore, Co-founder of Unity, said we must teach our children about God & teach them to pray, she asked parents to teach their children the Prayer of Faith. Bring a special child into your mind now, as we pray it together: God is my help in every need. God does my every hunger feed. God walks beside me, guides my way through every moment of the day. I now am wise. I now am true, patient, kind and loving too. All things I am can do and be through Christ the truth that is in me. God is my health; I can’t be sick. God is my strength--unfailing, quick. God is my all; I know no fear since God and love and truth are here.
Now I invite you to close your eyes & take those words into the silence. Nothing can shake your faith as you rest in the silence & know that God’s love is with you & those you care about. . .
Life is eternal & as God is with you, God is with the child you are praying for & throughout all life’s expressions. God’s love is now working in & through you, to bring forth new strength--not just a strength of physical power, but a strength of the silence. There is a wholeness in you & in every relationship that you have because the manifestation of pure God love is surrounding you all. Let us pray together the prayer for protection: The light of God surrounds us. The love of God enfolds us the power of God protects us, the presence of God watches over us. Wherever we are god is, and all is well.
In the nature of love we pray & believe....Amen.
God Centered Parenting
A book called “Raising Kids in a Changing World” lists 5 ingredients for a happy family.
1. Spiritual wellness.
2. Commitment to each other’s welfare & happiness. - I'm concerned about my daughter & my son & they're concerned about me & we are all responsible to fulfill our jobs & roles.
3. An appreciation of each other’s specialness; truly enjoying the other person’s company.
4. Spending quality time together. This says ‘our family unit is important.”
5. The ability to cope with stress & crisis because you're a team. We will get through this. No matter what, we’ll always be all right because we’re together & nothing can beat us.
A teenage girl was driving home from her after school job. She snagged her fender on the bumper of another car. She was in tears as she explained that it was a new car, only a few days out of the showroom. How was she ever going to explain the damage to her dad? The driver of the other car was sympathetic, but explained that they must note each other's license numbers & registration numbers. As the young woman reached into the large, brown envelop to retrieve the documents, a piece of paper fell out. In a heavy masculine scrawl were these words: “In case of accident, remember honey, it's you I love and not the car."
I ask you, which was more important as this little girl grew up; The memory of getting the car or the note from her Father? More than the gifts we give them, children remember the love. But he greatest gift of love we can give our children is God centered parenting.
As parents of the next generation, it is our job to help our children to express the greatness that's inherent in them, to live life without fear, to keep their childlike wonder & total trust, their unquestioning faith & their capacity for love. We can do this by God centered or spiritual parenting.
Q What is Spiritual parenting?
Q. What does it mean to be a spiritual being?
Q. What is spirit?
Q. What is spirituality?
Q. How is parenting a spiritual practice?
Q. How do I become more spiritual in my parenting?
Q. What is prayer?
Q. How do I pray with my children?
1. Start praying yourself. Establish a private prayer practice. If it's hard for you to pray, or you're out of practice, begin your prayers by asking for guidance in healing your relationship with God. Then spend time in silence, listening until the guidance comes. Being comfortable with your self will make it easier to pray with others.
2. Once we believe the experience of prayer is irreplaceable in our children's lives, we only have to focus ourselves & set aside a specific time for it. Prayer can take place anytime, anywhere, but if you're just beginning to build this habit, it's best to make a specific daily commitment. Choose a time that works in your present schedule & stick with it.
3. Use Prayers & Verses From Scripture a favorite prayer from your own childhood or a short prayer that is easy to memorize. Memorizing prayers, poems & scripture verses & saying them together as a morning or evening ritual helps calm & focus energy to help find that inner link with God & gives children comforting tools they carry with them wherever they go.
4. Singing songs together is also a good form of prayer.
5. Look for the Good: Develop an attitude of gratitude. An easy prayer is to say "Thank you Go for all the good things that happened today," & name them one by one. Think on all the blessings you have received & "Problems" shrink and can be seen in truer perspective.
6. Give thanks for anything & everything at any time or place. In developing this "attitude of gratitude" we are establishing in ourselves the deep conviction that we are profoundly loved & cared for & that planet earth is a miraculous place to live. This is one of the most powerful ways to reinforce an open channel to the Divine.
7. Teach your child to say a SIMPLE Statement of Truth: about God and us: For example: "God loves me.” “I know you hear me always,” or "God, you fill my heart with love," or God's will for me is only good." or "the Christ in me loves the Christ in you." “I love you I bless you & I behold the Christ in you.”
9. Pray for divine ideas & feelings, not things: So often we pray for things --a new house, car, toy presents for a birthday or Christmas, so we teach our children to pray for things. Children pick this right up from the source--their parents. Praying for things isn’t BAD; it just 'limits' how we perceive the answer to our prayers. When a child prays for toys at Christmas, you can help that child understand that s/he is really praying for the feeling of being wonderfully satisfied with love & abundance. When we pray for a new house, we are really praying for comfortable, safe shelter & having our needs provided for. Helping children to gently shift their focus from specific 'things' to the ideas & feelings behind the things opens their minds to the many different ways their prayers might be answered.
10. Prayer is the most powerful tool for problem solving. Helping your child to learn to lift up a problem & to turn it over to God is 1 of the greatest gifts you can give them. It's important to pray with your children about their concerns & needs. Be respectful & non-judgmental--their problems are very real to them & very important.
As parents & as spiritual beings raising spiritual beings, we can help our children know:
The most powerful impact adults have on children is as role models. If we wish our children to value the inner spiritual life, then we must give intentional regard to offering these experiences to children & to letting them see that we value them.
When you look into the face of your child think of that child as a child of God. Feel a sense of wonder when you think of all that they brought with them into life.
When you think about what lies ahead of them, be glad that they are a part of God & that God will be with them each and every day.
Let us pray:
Dear God, there are many fathers here this morning. Empower them with patience, love, wisdom & the courageous actions of their indwelling perfect Christ.
Help them to give love to their children that is beyond human love, a love that will be remembered & relived tomorrow, when they become father’s & mother’s of their own children. Amen.
FATHER’S DAY HUMOR
A Woman's Guide to Men's Gifts to help you with YourFather's Day Shopping
Rule #1: When in doubt, buy him a cordless drill. It doesn’t matter if he already has one. I have a friend who owns 17 and he has yet to complain. As a man, you can never have too many cordless drills. No one knows why.
Rule #2: If you can’t afford a cordless drill, buy him anything with the word ratchet or socket in it. Men love saying those two words. "Hey George, can I borrow your ratchet?" "OK." "By-the-way, are you through with my 3/8-inch socket yet?" Again, no one knows why.
Rule #3: If you are really broke, buy him anything for his car: A 99-cent ice scraper, small bottle of deicer or something to hang from his rear view mirror. Men love gifts for their cars.
Rule #4: Do not buy men socks, ties & bathrobes.
Rule #5: You can buy men new remote controls to replace the ones they have worn out. If you have a lot of money, buy your man a big-screen TV with the little picture in the corner.
Rule #6: Don’t buy any man industrial-sized canisters of after shave or deodorant. I'm told men do not stink; they are earthy.
Rule #7: Buy men label makers. Almost as good as cordless drills & Within a couple of weeks there’ll be labels absolutely everywhere: Socks. Shorts. Cups. Saucers. You get the idea.
Rule #8: Never buy a man anything that says "some assembly required" on the box. It will ruin his Special Day and he will always have parts left over.
Rule #9: Good places to shop for men include Northwest Iron Works, Lowe’s, Home Depot, John Deere, The RV Center, NAPA auto stores, Harley Davidson Shop. Parts of ANY kind work, it doesn't matter if he doesn't know what it is. "From NAPA Auto, eh? Must be something I need. Hey! Isn't this a starter for a '68 Ford Fairlane? Wow! Thanks!"
Rule #10: Men enjoy danger. That's why they never cook, but they will barbecue. Get him a monster barbecue with a 100-pound propane tank & then tell him the gas line leaks. "Oh the thrill! The challenge! Who wants a hamburger?"
Rule #12: It's hard to beat a really good wheel barrow or an aluminum extension ladder. Never buy a real man a step ladder. It must be an extension ladder or the fold-up kind on the infomercials.
Rule #13: Rope. Men love rope. It takes us back to their cowboy origins, or at least The Boy Scouts. Nothing says love like a hundred feet of 3/8" manila rope.No one knows why.
Truer words were never spoken
Because I'm a man, when I lock my keys in the car, I will fiddle with a coat hanger long after hypothermia has set in. Calling AAA is not an option. I will win, even if it may mean destroying the door or window in the process.
Because I'm a man, when the car isn't running very well, I will pop the hood and stare at the engine as if I know what I'm looking at. If another man shows up, one of us will say to the other, "I used to be able to fix these things, but now with all these computers and everything, I wouldn't even know where to start." We will then drink a couple of cups of coffee and curse at the machine as a form of holy communion.
Because I'm a man, when one of our appliances stops working, I will insist on taking it apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as much once the repair person gets here and has to put it †back together.
Because I'm a man, I must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch TV. If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking for it.
HAPPY FATHERíS DAY!
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