Heart Talk

I received this amusing story from Reverend Christopher Ian Chenowth:

There was a man and woman who had been married for more than 60 years who had shared everything. They had kept no secrets from each other except that the woman had a shoebox in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about. For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover. In trying to sort out their affairs, the man took down the shoe box and took it to his wife’s bedside. She agreed that it was time that he should know what was in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted doilies and a stack of money totaling $25,000. He asked her about the contents. “When we were to be married,” she said, “my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doily.” The man was so moved, he had to fight back tears. Only 2 precious doilies were in the box. She had only been angry with him 2 times in all those years. “Honey,” he said, “that explains the doilies, but what about all of this money?” “Oh,” she said, “that’s the money I made from selling the doilies.”

Let us remember that our first step to inner and outer peace is to realize that, when anger, upset or irritation well up within us, it isn’t the fault of some person or thing but our own improper response to others. We must accept the fact that it is ‘we’ who have to change by deciding that we are not going to place blame outside ourselves for what goes on in our world. There is great power in a peaceful response. Let us practice nonviolence and peace in every experience until it becomes the habitual way that we choose to live. As Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.”

In love and light, Bernadette

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